Coaching with us is dating, relationship and sexuality coaching from a real couple who actually live a healthy relationship, for clients who want to learn, ask the questions they cannot ask anyone else, and leave with insights they can genuinely use.
For every experience I work alongside Evie Elysian, my real-life partner. The session is talk-based and non-sexual, with the option to bring in practical hands-on elements separately through our hands-on sex education service.
What a coaching session can cover
Every session is built around what you bring. Common ground clients ask us to work through includes:
- Dating skills, including online dating, first dates, reading attraction and building real connection
- Communication in relationships, especially around needs, desire and the difficult conversations
- Sexual confidence and getting clear on what you actually want
- Opening up your sexuality, including bi-curiosity, kink-curiosity or questions about non-monogamy
- Relationship structures, from monogamy through ethical non-monogamy and polyamory and the variations between
- Reconnecting with a long-term partner when the spark has thinned
- Talking about from a breakup, divorce or a significant relational loss
- Self-knowledge work around attachment patterns, sexual shame and where those came from
- A specific situation you are stuck in, where an outside perspective from people who think about this for a living would help
How we offer this
Our coaching is grounded in real lived experience. We are a couple who genuinely live what we talk about: a long-term partnership that has navigated openness, hot-wifing, professional intimacy work, deep emotional growth and the everyday practice of staying connected. We bring that alongside years of reading, thinking and coaching others through the same territory.
We are not therapists, and we are clear about that. This is coaching: insight, perspective, practical strategy and real conversation. If your situation needs clinical mental health support, we will tell you and refer you on. For everything else, we are confident in what we offer.
Evie brings warm, attuned, intuitive presence and is strong on the inner-work side of a conversation. I bring a steady, philosophical and practical perspective and am strong on relational dynamics and communication. Between the two of us you get a fuller view than most coaching can give.
Who tends to book this with us
Coaching clients come to us from all sorts of places. Single people working out what they actually want from dating and relationships. Couples wanting to reconnect or work through a specific stuck point. People exploring their sexuality or relationship structure for the first time. Recently separated clients rebuilding their sense of themselves. And anyone who has decided that a real conversation with people who genuinely do this work would be helpful.
Booking a coaching session
Reach out telling us what you would like to work on, whether you would like one of us or both, and the rough length you are after. We will respond with availability and any practical considerations. Two hours is the length we usually recommend, though shorter or longer bookings can be arranged.
Sessions are held at our private space in inner Melbourne, with comfortable seating and tea or coffee. We also offer video coaching for clients outside Melbourne or interstate, and outcall sessions are available across Melbourne and the surrounding areas.